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Being A Flake Is Fine And The Gen-Z Stare Is A Myth: Vogue’s Twentysomething Staffers Defend Gen-Z Etiquette

Being A Flake Is Fine And The GenZ Stare Is A Myth Vogues Twentysomething Staffers Defend GenZ Etiquette
Martin Parr

As And Just Like That gets ever more deranged and difficult to follow, we’ve had to find new things to discuss at Vogue HQ on Monday mornings. The topic currently dividing the office? The so-called Gen-Z stare. Understood to describe the vacant, dissociated look that often precedes (or interrupts) a Blank Street matcha order, this habit of glazing over is, apparently, widespread among those born between 1997 and 2012.

Discussion of the Gen-Z stare – which I am not personally familiar with, but am perhaps guilty of using – quickly evolved into a wider conversation around the many (apparently) anti-social habits of an always online generation.

As a “geriatric” Gen-Z, I felt a responsibility to defend my contemporaries, and so took to the streets (British Vogue’s corner of the building), metaphorical tiny mic in hand, where I canvassed Vogue’s youngest and most fresh-faced staffers to ask: is Gen-Z really that bad?

Riann Phillip, associate features editor

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“Moth can in Victoria Park – I can't get much more Gen Z than that”

Please state your Gen-Z credentials

“Born in 1999. I was 23 when I wrote about Sex and the City for this very website, and angered a lot of Gen-X-ers.”

Do you film yourself in public?

“Not really. I struggle with the idea of being perceived.”

What do you say when you answer the phone?

“I don’t answer calls from numbers I don’t know.”

What is your opinion on playing music and/or TikToks out loud in public?

“I’ve always thought of that as being a boomer thing? Though I was on the Tube the other day and a group of lads were blasting music from their speaker. I didn’t mind because they were playing bangers tbf.”

How often do you cancel plans?

“I don’t. My plans usually get cancelled by my fellow Gen-Z friends before I have the chance to.”

Have you ever ordered a drink over an app to avoid making conversation?

“Rarely. The only exception is for the coffee shop near our office, which is chocka in the mornings so it’s essential. But there’s nothing worse than going to a bar and seeing those naff QR codes stuck to the table.”

How do you feel about tiny mic interviewers (e.g. people asking “how old is too old for the club” in the middle of Soho for TikTok)?

“We need to bring back ASBOs.”

Ranyechi Udemezue, associate beauty and wellness writer

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Please state your Gen-Z credentials

“I’m 24 and I’m a former Brandy Melville employee.”

Are you familiar with the Gen-Z stare? Do you do it?

“Yes, I’m familiar with it. I have quite an expressive face, so if you catch me with a blank or confused stare, my social battery has probably just run out.”

How often do you cancel plans?

“I make an effort to stick to plans. It’s socially acceptable to be flaky nowadays – what with all the burnout and fatigue floating around – so I don’t really have anything locked down in my calendar until the morning of.”

Have you ever ordered a drink over an app to avoid making conversation?

“I’ll usually do that to speed things up. I don’t really make much conversation while ordering drinks anyway. When I worked in retail, I loved it when people would just smile, hand me their items and pay in peace.”

Where do you draw the line between content farming and living in the moment?

“That really depends on your goals. If you want to be an influencer, film away and get that bag.”

What is the biggest misconception about Gen-Z?

“That we’re all phone fiends and like complaining too much. First of all, millennials, Gen-X-ers and boomers are absolutely addicted to their phones – even more so than Gen-Z in my opinion. Second of all, we’ll stop complaining when there’s nothing left to complain about – and we have a house, a car, and a pension.

Charlotte Rutter, associate fashion editor

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Please state your Gen-Z credentials.

“I am 27 years old and an independent woman who’s addicted to her phone.”

Are you familiar with the Gen-Z stare? Do you do it?

“No, truthfully, I had to look this up. It’s not something I am aware of doing – if I’m feeling awkward, I usually end up word vomiting.”

Do you film yourself in public?

“Not unless I really have to.”

How often do you cancel plans?

“Never! I can’t deal with the guilt.”

Have you ever ordered a drink over an app to avoid making conversation?

“Never to avoid conversation… more due to physical laziness.”

How do you feel about tiny mic interviewers?

“Not for nor against. I enjoy watching the videos, but I think taking part in one would be a firm no – especially if I was being asked about my savings account.”

What, in your opinion, is Gen-Z’s most antisocial trait?

“Expecting people to always be reachable just because we have phones – there’s so much pressure to perform and be available to everyone all the time.”

And what about the biggest misconception about them?

“That we are lazy. I think there is still plenty of ambition amongst Gen-Zs, but modern life is overwhelming in a way that generations before us didn’t experience. It’s a lot harder to execute your ambitions, and the reward for work is a lot less than what it used to be.”

Olivia Allen, fashion writer

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Please state your Gen-Z credentials

“Post-Diana, pre-millennium, chronically online.”

Do you film yourself in public?

“No, I am a purist. Static posting only.”

Where do you stand on playing music and/or TikToks out loud in public?

“In the words of Addison Rae: ‘Put your headphones on.’”

How often do you cancel plans?

“I’m a fan of the reverse psychology soft cancel. Eg: ‘Omg babe, don’t worry if you’re too tired, we can do another time.’ Usually when I never had any intention of following through in the first place.”

Where do you draw the line between content farming and living in the moment?

“Everything is copy.”

What, in your opinion, is Gen-Z’s most antisocial trait?

“Not to be a Karen but… filming and taking pictures of people without asking. It’s rude! And very obvious. At least say hello before you go all dead-eyed content mode on us.”

Zee Waraich, social video creator

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Please state your Gen-Z credentials

“I’m chronically online, I have undiagnosed ADHD, and I’ve been called ‘woke police’ as a slur.”

Are you familiar with the Gen-Z stare? Do you do it?

“I don’t believe in it. I have never noticed it either. I’ve been told I have an extremely expressive face. Do I sometimes disassociate? Yes. But I think that’s more a symptom of the overstimulating world we live in now.”

Is it ok to communicate exclusively via brain rot?

“I think there’s a time and place for it – with a good friend, absolutely. But if it goes on too long I get the ick. Some of my friends are literally a brain rot soundboard, and while that’s impressive I think it’s also concerning.”

Have you ever ordered a drink over an app to avoid making conversation?

“100 per cent. Sometimes I don’t need that interaction.”

How do you feel about tiny mic interviewers?

“If it’s not giving Tiara Skye I don’t want it.”

Where do you draw the line between content farming and living in the moment?

“I think if you’re experiencing something spectacular, document it within 10 seconds and then stop. If you content farm too hard, are you really living life?”

What is the biggest misconception about Gen-Z?

“That we don’t work. We work! And hard, and passionately, we just have boundaries and an awareness of the importance of people’s emotional needs.”

Rosa Weait, fashion assistant

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Please state your Gen-Z credentials

“I’m 27 and don’t feel very Gen Z.”

Do you film yourself in public?

“No, I find it way too scary. I admire people who do, though and their confidence.”

Is it ok to communicate exclusively via brain rot?

“What the helly!? Acceptable in any situation.”

Where do you draw the line between content farming and living in the moment?

“It depends on the event. I can’t imagine making a TikTok at my wedding or at a funeral… but people do.”

Kaylah Worrell, intern

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Please state your Gen-Z credentials

“I’m a 2004 baby.”

Do you film yourself in public?

“All the time! I’d like to say I’m a romantic for life. You may catch me filming myself on a train journey, pretending to be a character at the start of a 2000s rom-com. Sue me!”

How do you feel about tiny mic interviewers?

“I think it's cute! Sometimes informative, but then again, sometimes annoying? I’m conflicted.”

What, in your opinion, is Gen-Z’s most antisocial trait?

“Scrolling through TikTok while failing to have a conversation. I get so mad at my friends for it.”